Cómo comunicarnos con asertividad. Estrella Montolío, lingüista y profesora.

The video details techniques for assertive communication to express opinions harmoniously without discomfort or rudeness.

Summary

  • Assertiveness involves facing disagreement and steering towards conflict resolution.
  • Using 'I' statements instead of 'you' statements can change the impact of the message.
  • Being specific and turning complaints into requests can lead to more constructive conversations.
  • Providing concrete feedback and being specific in evaluations helps with clear communication and problem-solving.

Chapter 1

The Challenge of Assertive Opinion Expression

0:05 - 17 sec

Discussing the discomfort of expressing opinions that may oppose someone else's and the fear of coming across as impolite.

Discussing the discomfort of expressing opinions that may oppose someone else's and the fear of coming across as impolite.

  • People often feel uncomfortable expressing their opinions, especially when they differ from others in the conversation.
  • There is a concern about being perceived as rude when voicing a dissenting opinion.

Chapter 2

Learning Assertive Communication

0:26 - 14 sec

Assertive communication is a skill that can be learned and practiced with the aim of resolving conflicts.

Assertive communication is a skill that can be learned and practiced with the aim of resolving conflicts.

  • Being assertive means approaching disagreement with the goal of resolving conflict.
  • Learning assertive communication comes with practice and can be improved with various techniques.

Chapter 3

Techniques for Assertive Language

0:44 - 47 sec

Using different linguistic techniques and personal pronouns to express criticism without offending.

Using different linguistic techniques and personal pronouns to express criticism without offending.

  • Using 'I' instead of 'you' when formulating a sentence can make it less accusatory.
  • An example given is how to assertively tell a friend you're tired of them making decisions for you.

Chapter 4

The Power of Personal Pronouns

1:39 - 32 sec

The shift from 'you' to 'I' in conversations can significantly alter the reception of a message.

The shift from 'you' to 'I' in conversations can significantly alter the reception of a message.

  • Changing the focus of a complaint from 'you' to 'I' makes the other person perceive it differently.
  • The selection of pronouns and words is crucial in shaping the effect of communication.

Chapter 5

The Importance of 'How' in Communication

2:34 - 1 min, 5 sec

The manner of speaking, including the specific words used, plays a critical role in assertive communication.

The manner of speaking, including the specific words used, plays a critical role in assertive communication.

  • Often in conversations, the issue is not what is said but how it is said.
  • Being assertive also involves turning complaints into requests to avoid putting the other person on the defensive.

Chapter 6

Being Specific and Concrete

3:53 - 1 min, 17 sec

Specificity in instructions and feedback is essential for clear communication and effective problem-solving.

Specificity in instructions and feedback is essential for clear communication and effective problem-solving.

  • Vague instructions in organizations can lead to miscommunication and misplaced responsibility.
  • Teachers can provide specific and constructive feedback on student work to facilitate improvement.

Chapter 7

The Value of Specific Evaluations

5:17 - 37 sec

Specific evaluations help individuals understand what they did well and encourage detailed attention in assessments.

Specific evaluations help individuals understand what they did well and encourage detailed attention in assessments.

  • When evaluating others, being specific about why something is valuable makes the feedback more meaningful.
  • This approach shows the evaluator has genuinely considered the work rather than relying on generic phrases.

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