Raised As a Military Brat-Mary Elizabeth
Soft White Underbelly
13 min, 7 sec
Mary Elizabeth recounts her childhood as an army brat, the traumatic experiences she had, and her current struggles with homelessness and addiction.
Summary
- Mary Elizabeth grew up on an army base with strict parents, where she was exposed to military training at a young age.
- A defining moment in her childhood was participating in 'take your daughter to work day,' which involved military training and learning to use weapons.
- The training left her traumatized, resulting in psychological issues and a shock that caused her to be mute for three days.
- Her adolescence was marred by acting out and attention-seeking behavior, leading to drinking and drug use.
- As an adult, Mary has been homeless for three and a half years, occasionally engages in petty crime, and has two children being raised by her parents.
Chapter 1
Mary Elizabeth talks about her family and what it was like growing up as the daughter of an army officer.
- Born in Keen, Texas, she describes a 'fairly normal' childhood on an army base.
- Her father, an army officer, was very strict and believed showing emotions equated to weakness.
- She learned from a young age to be prepared for military action, symbolized by the acronym 'BRAT' (Be Ready Anytime).
Chapter 2
A detailed recounting of a traumatic 'take your daughter to work day' that involved military training.
- At six years old, she was taken to a military training instead of a normal workday, which included learning to use weapons and military equipment.
- The experience included being in a tank and firing it, which shocked her and left her unable to speak for three days.
- Only a few children were chosen for this experience, and it significantly impacted her, causing long-term psychological issues.
Chapter 3
Mary Elizabeth discusses her teenage years and the beginning of her substance abuse.
- As a teenager, she sought attention and often acted out, displaying anger issues.
- She has seen a therapist and revealed that her behavioral issues stem from her early childhood trauma.
- Her substance abuse started in her teenage years, beginning with drinking and escalating to harder substances.
Chapter 4
Mary Elizabeth describes her current life situation, including homelessness and her efforts to recover.
- At 35, she is homeless and trying to put her life back together, seeking housing and dealing with addiction.
- She occasionally commits petty crimes to survive and sometimes engages in sex work as a last resort.
- Mary has been homeless for three and a half years and has two children who are being raised by her parents.
Chapter 5
The complexities of Mary Elizabeth's relationships with her family and how it has shaped her.
- She maintains contact with her mother but not with her father.
- Her parents are raising her children differently than how she was raised, indicating a change in their perspective.
- Mary Elizabeth does not talk to her family about her challenges or her experiences on the streets.
Chapter 6
Therapeutic insights and how she copes with the emotional aftermath of her upbringing.
- Therapy has helped her recognize that her upbringing was not normal and she has learned to avoid exposing children to violence.
- She uses drugs to numb her emotions but acknowledges that therapy can help in dealing with difficult emotions.
- Although she does not attend therapy regularly, she finds it beneficial when she does go.
Chapter 7
Mary Elizabeth reflects on her life's experiences and expresses her hopes and fears for the future.
- She does not dwell on regrets, focusing instead on planning for the future and self-improvement.
- Her biggest fear is remaining on the streets indefinitely, and she aims to become functional in society again.
- She has learned the negative effects of exposing children to violence and advocates against it.
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