Why Silence Makes Your Ex Come Back

Brad Browning

Brad Browning

11 min, 8 sec

Breakup coach Brad Browning explains the psychology behind the no contact (ignoring) strategy to win an ex back.

Summary

  • Brad has over 10 years of experience helping people with breakups and has noticed a consistent curiosity about the 'no contact' strategy.
  • No contact means a complete cessation of communication with the ex for at least 30 days.
  • Silence acts as 'shock therapy' for the ex, forcing them to experience life without the presence of the person they've been with.
  • The absence is meant to make the ex miss the person more, forget negative memories, and pique curiosity about what the person is doing.
  • No contact also prevents one from being a backup plan for the ex, allows self-improvement, and is the most effective strategy according to Brad.

Chapter 1

Introduction to No Contact Strategy

0:00 - 51 sec

Brad introduces himself and the concept of the no contact strategy.

Brad introduces himself and the concept of the no contact strategy.

  • Brad Browning has been a breakup coach for over 10 years.
  • He frequently receives questions about the no contact strategy.
  • No contact involves ignoring an ex completely for at least 30 days.

Chapter 2

Psychology Behind No Contact

0:51 - 1 min, 22 sec

Brad explains why no contact works from a psychological standpoint.

Brad explains why no contact works from a psychological standpoint.

  • No contact prevents emotional mistakes immediately after a breakup.
  • It allows both parties to cool down and gain perspective on the situation.
  • Suddenly disappearing creates a shock, making the breakup feel more intense for the ex.

Chapter 3

Benefits of No Contact

2:13 - 2 min, 2 sec

Brad lists the benefits of the no contact rule.

Brad lists the benefits of the no contact rule.

  • No contact keeps one from making emotional errors post-breakup.
  • It provides time to cool down, gain perspective, and potentially reassess the desire to get back together.
  • The sudden loss makes the ex feel the absence more acutely.

Chapter 4

Shock Therapy and Mystery

4:15 - 1 min, 24 sec

Brad discusses shock therapy and how it generates curiosity and mystery.

Brad discusses shock therapy and how it generates curiosity and mystery.

  • No contact shocks the ex by demonstrating life without the partner.
  • The sudden loss is compared to having a smartphone taken away abruptly.
  • It's more challenging for the ex to adjust to the abrupt loss than a gradual one.

Chapter 5

Building Intrigue and Avoiding Backup Status

5:39 - 1 min, 24 sec

Brad explains the importance of creating intrigue and avoiding becoming a backup plan.

Brad explains the importance of creating intrigue and avoiding becoming a backup plan.

  • No contact creates intrigue as the ex wonders about the sudden disappearance.
  • It prevents one from being perceived as a backup option, which can make the breakup scarier for the ex.

Chapter 6

Self-improvement During No Contact

7:03 - 1 min, 19 sec

Brad encourages using the no contact period for self-improvement.

Brad encourages using the no contact period for self-improvement.

  • The period of no contact should be used to become more confident and attractive.
  • Improving oneself can have a positive impact when one sees their ex again after the period of silence.

Chapter 7

Final Thoughts on No Contact

8:22 - 2 min, 34 sec

Brad concludes by affirming the effectiveness of the no contact strategy.

Brad concludes by affirming the effectiveness of the no contact strategy.

  • No contact is the most effective strategy for getting an ex back.
  • It outperforms other techniques and often works on its own to make an ex reconsider the breakup.

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